Have you ever looked at someone’s facebook/instagram post and thought to yourself “man they are so lucky” or “I wish I had the: man, girl, home, job, pet, money, travel budget, body, etc that they have”….
Well, if you haven’t kudos to you. Feel free to go ahead and scroll past this post, because this is for the people like me.
The people who have prayed and prayed for something and it seems like their season has not come yet.
The people who want for things to fall into place but it always seems like the other shoe is going to fall.
The people who are trying to make it through the day sometimes.
I am talking about the people who understand what a VALLEY is.
The ones who haven’t been able to sustain a true romantic relationship because they are battling trauma and they only understand how to settle for what is given to them.
The ones who haven’t launched their business because they are afraid of what their parents, partner, friends, or colleagues might say.
The ones who feel like they can’t seem to stick to one thing for too long without something getting in the way.
The ones who feel like it always works out for other people but not for them.
I am here to tell you, you are comparing your valley to someone’s highlight reel.
YOU GOTTA STOP SIS.
Everything in life has a season, and in some seasons you are on the top of a mountain and in others you are in a valley.
Just because you see someone else flourishing in what appears to be a beautiful relationship, buying a home, or building a business does not mean that your time is not going to come. It also doesn’t mean that they are without struggle.
That girl that is marrying the guy that seems like he absolutely adores her? Yeah well what you don’t see is that she had to go to therapy to get over the trauma from her family and her past relationships she was treated terribly.
That girl you see buying her first home? She was homeless at one point and was struggling to get a co signer for her apartment.
That girl who has a business that is THRIVING? When she started out she didn’t have more than 10 followers on IG and her own friends didn’t even buy her product
That girl who just got a promotion? She was let go from her job unexpectedly and she had anxiety attacks about her career for weeks on end that didn’t allow her to sleep.
You have GOT TO STOP comparing your life to that of someone else’s especially what they choose to show you on social media.
Social media is a place where you flex in public and fear in private.
Read that again…
Social media is a place where you flex in public and fear in private.
You have absolutely NO idea what someone went through to get where they are now. You also have no idea if what they are choosing to show you is what is actually going on.
You can fake a happy relationship for the gram.
You can fake wealth and be thousands of dollars in debt for the gram.
Be proud of where you are! Be proud of what you have! Embrace the journey that you are on.
We all get to live this life one time, don’t spend yours being jealous of someone else’s.
You can be so wrapped up in their blessing, you miss yours.
Their blessing might be a new job and a car.
Yours might be a loving partner and a new home.
You must embrace every piece of your journey and trust God along the way.
Take a moment to look at your highlight reel, it might be giving other people the impression that your life is perfect. There could be people praying for you life right now and they don’t even realize the struggles you have been through.
Be gentle with yourself. Take care of your mind. Stop comparing yourself to them.
We can do it sis, just trust the journey.