The three biggest things I have had to unlearn lately are:
1.) What masculinity looks like and my interpretations of it
2.) The definition of “success”
3.) Exchanging my time and talents for money and corporate validation does not actually make me fulfilled
Dear Raven,
Remember to ask yourself “does this serve who I want to become?”. You don’t have to take the scraps of half hearted affection and try to make magic out of them.
I wish someone would have taught me years ago how to affirm myself and my future, but I am eager to see what the next chapter of my life will look like now that I know how.
See I recite the following affirmations to myself before each day:
No one has it all figured out and the people who look like they do… They just decided to be “In Bloom” for the world to see.
Are you saying that your friend who is posting their business/passion on their IG consistently is doing the most because you secretly wish that you could go after your own dreams?
You see…. what we don’t realize is that our insecurities are usually the loudest things in the room.
What happens when you only know how to survive but the new chapter in your life requires for you to live unapologetically as your truest self? How do you navigate exploring your new season when you feel like you barely made it out of your last one?
You have got to stop living for other people’s approval. Stop running the blueprint of your future by people who have only seen your past.
You feel like life has been beating you down and you get on Instagram to see yet another person buying a home and getting married. You start to feel like if God ran out of blessings He should just tell you that… But are you looking at things the wrong way?
My insecurities sometimes scream louder than all of my positive thoughts. What I feel and what I know are often in a constant battle, so how do I push through?
We broke up for good and he is one of my dearest friends. Why does that have to be a bad thing?
What do you do when love doesn’t look like what everyone else says that it should? Is it even possible to find love in “unconventional” places?
2020 has been trying to drag me through the mud, but I keep thinking things will get better.
Why do women have to put up with EVERYTHING in order to be worthy of a relationship? Why do we constantly have to be blemish free and our partners are “works in progress” well.. I am over it.
“I mean…. trying things never hurt anyone right?” “Unless I over do it, I can’t really have any repercussions for my actions.” “I know my limits so I know that I will be good.” Everything is always good until it isn’t anymore.
Drake has done it yet again. Another anthem for woman to blast and sing along to. The video and the song are both strong reminders that as woman we are stronger than we know.
Energy is contagious, purpose is inevitable, and courage will always defeat fear. When I think of my future, the experiences of all of the woman before me, and all of the beautiful young black girls that are to come... I am filled with the strength needed to say enough is enough.
As a black woman who has had to frequently navigate predominately white spaces I am reflecting on the impact of being “othered”. Join me as I candidly speak on the impact of “loud & proud” racism and the closeted “liberal” racist.